It's official, you and your ex have at long last broken up. What should you do now? The next few decisive steps will be the focus of this article.
1.) It is absolutely critical that you get over the fear and stress about your breakup. It will be exceedingly difficult to think straight and take control if you're stressed out. Do not bring up your ex's faults with your friends.
This will only reinforce and draw out your negative feelings. This kind of talk will make your friends feel very uncomfortable. Unless they are very knowledgeable in relationship issues, their suggestions won't be that useful.
2.) Remember that things seldom fix themselves. You'll have to put forth the work to change things for the better. This will only be achieved with a cool head.
After your breakup, your first urge will be to try to fix things up as quick as possible before it's too late. This will not be done overnight. In fact, you should let things cool off for about a month.
It's also good if the separation occurred in a mature and non threatening way. In order to a get some perspective, you'll have to allow some time for reflection. Understanding the reasons behind the breakup is crucial before any attempt at contacting her.
3.) Be friends with her. This may be somewhat difficult but it's well worth the effort because it allows for additional contact with her. The nature of your latest contact always defines the current status of your relationship. This last contact forms the basis of her recent memories about you.
Do the fun things with her that you did back in the beginning, before you had sex. This will bring on her memories of the good times of your relationship. This reminder will make it harder for her to leave you.
4.) Beware of alcohol. It will ruin your common sense and good judgement. The intake of alcohol late at night often induces a person to give their ex a phone call.
No one is in a good state of mind when they're aroused late at night by a phone call. This is especially true if it's their ex on the phone. The alcohol will make the situation a lot worse because it will diminish your better sense and things will be said that you'll later regret.
5.) Get out and have fun. It's easier said than done, I know, but it's a superb form of therapy. Make new friends and get back together with the old buddies. Living life again will give you a more balanced perspective and help lessen the pain of separation.
If you have followed through with the above steps both you and your ex should be on good terms with each other. Although the romantic relationship hasn't been reestablished yet, you are miles ahead of where you were at the time of the breakup.
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